The 40 year old Superstar Intern Blog

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Here I am talking with Cappie Pondexter and networking with talldistrict.com

I began life after retirement  thinking okay let me go become the next Robin Roberts. I had participated in the NBPA’s SportsCaster U and I thought I was pretty impressive. I was certain the sports media outlets would think so as well.

Quickly into my transition I found securing a career in sports media after playing was  very challenging. For the first time in my life I was in unfamiliar territory and I learned that I would no longer be given a chance to show my talents physically. In order to get my foot in the door I’d have to have great connections  or look exceptional on my resume. The lack of experience on my resume and playing year-round didn’t put me at the top of any company’s list.

Hi my name is Chasity Melvin retired WNBA allstar and NCSU Hall of Famer, 14 year pro baller that  had a magnificent around-the-world journey. I was fortunate to play 12 seasons in the WNBA and 14 years abroad in eight different countries winning championships, living life and  experiencing  different cultures and encountering all nationalities.

I hung up the shoes in 2013 thinking life after retirement would be as fantastic as my playing career. That’s until I got my first few no’s when trying to get a job.  I didn’t like hearing in the  pro sports world “it’s a business decision”but I had an even tougher time in my post sports career  hearing “you don’t have enough experience”.IMG_1311

My journey didn’t start out with a bang but the no’s humbled me and I began trying different things commentating games, life coaching, working at a TV station, coaching basketball, putting on clinics, speaking engagements, mostly independent contract work also known as ” grinding and hustling. Once I started to embrace the journey I began to learn so much more about myself and life.

So after turning 40, a few jobs, creative starts, and the completion of my first book coming in August, my journey continues this summer as an intern for the NBRPA association also know as Legends. The  first day on the job was great as the NBRPA partnered with my former team the Chicago Sky‘s Sky Cares Foundation and 2nd annual golf charity outing.

Here I am chalking it up with Erika de Souza about life after the game.
Here I am chalking it up with Erika de Souza about life after the game.

Both organizations share the same goals of inspiring others and giving back and the athletes are instrumental in those efforts. My first day on the job gave me an opportunity to talk with the current players about life after basketball and advice on how to start preparing early. It’s also important for them to know that the NBRPA is a valuable asset for them post playing career so that they are not alone in the transition process. Make sure you follow the blog and keep up with this new chapter of my life story. Until next time remember you’re never too old to learn. Keep dreaming, believing and never give up.

 

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Cam and Steph winning in the game of Life.. Copy

Cameron Newton (Cam)  and Stephen Curry (Steph) have a lot to be thankful for on this past Thanksgiving going into the New Year. Two of the top tier athletes  playing the toughest positions, quarterback and point guard, in their respective leagues have ushered their teams, the Carolina Panthers and Golden State Warriors, so far into an undefeated season.

Cam's car wreck near death experience.
Cam’s car wreck near death experience.

Cam and Steph have had their share of criticisms, fault finding and typical analysis from some of the best sports writers in the world. Many of them said  Cam is not the prototype for quarterback and isn’t patient in the pocket. He always wants to use his legs, is selfish, doesn’t make the right reads, and his mechanics are off when throwing passes. Cam is proving those skeptics wrong coming off a  debilitating ankle injury that he finally had surgically repaired and a near death car wreck. Despite the critics’ assessments, Cam still has that endearing smile and is dancing in the end zone never forgetting the fact that  God had his hand on him during that miraculous time. He has been very outspoken and grateful to whom he said “was the man upstairs”.

Steph early in his career battling ankle injuries.
Steph early in his career battling ankle injuries.

Steph’s evaluations during the 2009 NBA draft drew criticism from the experts such as being stuck between a point guard and a shooting guard.  He had average size, athleticism, and a frail frame which was sure to be injury prone. They also said he relied to heavily on his outside shot. Critics were almost proven correct on the frail frame evaluation as Steph missed most of the shortened NBA  lock-out season with ankle injuries that plagued him up into the playoffs series against the San Antonio Spurs in 2013 when the Warriors first looked like contenders. His critics have been  silenced after winning his 1st  NBA MVP  and NBA championship. During his MVP speech and every time he has received an award he has given thanks to God and was quoted as saying “I couldn’t have done any of this without my Lord and savior Jesus Christ.”

Despite the criticism, these two men have matured and wrestled with adversity and continue to be in the  MVP talks of their respective leagues. Steph Curry may be scoring his way into a 2nd MVP season averaging over 32 points a game. The way they both play with pride, passion and humility has become fun to watch and monumental  not only for their teammates and  fans, but the  young kids that look up to them.

Nothing to critique about this Cam and Steph praying together.
Nothing to critique about this Cam and Steph praying together.

In the supernatural world the critics’ reviews have nothing on God’s reviews of Cam and Steph as you are entertained by their skill and gracefulness on the playing field.  What’s even more majestic is seeing these two  men having a strong faith in the midst of so much tearing down and what we call hating these days by taking a moment to pray together. Steph Curry and Cam Newton are winning big not just in sports but in the biggest game of all, the game of life. In a world where  most athletes think they are super-human and have the control, it’s quite humbling to see these two brothers acknowledging something bigger than themselves.  In life where it really counts, Cam and Steph’s lives are more distinguishing and awe-inspiring than their play.

 

Cam and Steph winning in the game of Life.. Copy

Cameron Newton (Cam)  and Stephen Curry (Steph) have a lot to be thankful for on this past Thanksgiving going into the New Year. Two of the top tier athletes  playing the toughest positions, quarterback and point guard, in their respective leagues have ushered their teams, the Carolina Panthers and Golden State Warriors, so far into an undefeated season.

Cam's car wreck near death experience.
Cam’s car wreck near death experience.

Cam and Steph have had their share of criticisms, fault finding and typical analysis from some of the best sports writers in the world. Many of them said  Cam is not the prototype for quarterback and isn’t patient in the pocket. He always wants to use his legs, is selfish, doesn’t make the right reads, and his mechanics are off when throwing passes. Cam is proving those skeptics wrong coming off a  debilitating ankle injury that he finally had surgically repaired and a near death car wreck. Despite the critics’ assessments, Cam still has that endearing smile and is dancing in the end zone never forgetting the fact that  God had his hand on him during that miraculous time. He has been very outspoken and grateful to whom he said “was the man upstairs”.

Steph early in his career battling ankle injuries.
Steph early in his career battling ankle injuries.

Steph’s evaluations during the 2009 NBA draft drew criticism from the experts such as being stuck between a point guard and a shooting guard.  He had average size, athleticism, and a frail frame which was sure to be injury prone. They also said he relied to heavily on his outside shot. Critics were almost proven correct on the frail frame evaluation as Steph missed most of the shortened NBA  lock-out season with ankle injuries that plagued him up into the playoffs series against the San Antonio Spurs in 2013 when the Warriors first looked like contenders. His critics have been  silenced after winning his 1st  NBA MVP  and NBA championship. During his MVP speech and every time he has received an award he has given thanks to God and was quoted as saying “I couldn’t have done any of this without my Lord and savior Jesus Christ.”

Despite the criticism, these two men have matured and wrestled with adversity and continue to be in the  MVP talks of their respective leagues. Steph Curry may be scoring his way into a 2nd MVP season averaging over 32 points a game. The way they both play with pride, passion and humility has become fun to watch and monumental  not only for their teammates and  fans, but the  young kids that look up to them.

Nothing to critique about this Cam and Steph praying together.
Nothing to critique about this Cam and Steph praying together.

In the supernatural world the critics’ reviews have nothing on God’s reviews of Cam and Steph as you are entertained by their skill and gracefulness on the playing field.  What’s even more majestic is seeing these two  men having a strong faith in the midst of so much tearing down and what we call hating these days by taking a moment to pray together. Steph Curry and Cam Newton are winning big not just in sports but in the biggest game of all, the game of life. In a world where  most athletes think they are super-human and have the control, it’s quite humbling to see these two brothers acknowledging something bigger than themselves.  In life where it really counts, Cam and Steph’s lives are more distinguishing and awe-inspiring than their play.

 

Black Quarterbacks Can Play in the NFL.. Copy

Growing up I  followed the teams my Dad pulled for and in his house we pulled for the Redskins. As  I became a teenager and more into sports I asked him why did we like  the Redskins. He said “Because they were the first to start a Black quarterback and many white people believe Blacks couldn’t play that position. ” I didn’t really get the significance then but, over the years I’ve learned as a professional black athlete myself just how important it was for us and the entire black community.

I overheard conversations by my Dad with other men in the neighborhood  when he was out in his Redskins hat mentioning the name Doug Williams.   He was the first black quarterback to start and win a Superbowl for the Redskins in 1988.

Today 24 years later RG3III rookie quarterback sensation for the Washington Redskins and Russell Wilson rookie quarterback sensation for the Seattle Seahawks will be fighting to move on to the second round of the NFL Playoffs. They like others before them  have overcome all the stereotypes.  They have proved many wrong and some right that black quarterbacks can play.

Who will be #1 after this game!

Unlike Doug in his days being referred to in the media as the Black quarterback, RGIII and Russell Wilson are referred to as just quarterback. In Doug’s days RGIII and Russell Wilson would have been forced to play another position because many teams and coaches believed Blacks couldn’t excel at the quarterback position. Many have paved the way for them to have this opportunity today.

What a great  story today in DC for the NFL as two of the top Rookie Quarterbacks square off in the NFL WildCard Matchup.  This is a win win situation for the Black Quarterback controversy because win or lose a black quarterback will come out on top. This  is another opportunity to remind some that in the NFL the Quarterback position is not Black, White, Puerto Rican or Hatian. It is simply Quarterback and if you can play it you can play it.

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Gilbert “Ignoramus” Arenas

This was Gilbert Arenas response to a video clip he posted on his IG of two women playing basketball in lingerie. http://dailycaller.com/2015/12/16/former-nba-star-puts-sexy-video-on-instagram-to-show-what-the-wnba-should-become-video/

“NOW this is what america was hoping for when they announced the #WNBA back in 1996… not a bunch of chicks running around looking like,cast members from #orangeisthenewblack…dont get me wrong,they have few #cutiepies but theres a whole alotta #beanpies running around hahahahahaha if #skylardiggins came out like this,I dont care if she missed every layup..imma buy season tickets and I dont even know where the [expletive] #tulsa is hahahaha #2016newwnbaoutfitPLS and if u think this is sexist,9 times out of 10 u the ugly one and we didnt pay to come see u play anyway #donkeykong …smdh #thiswillbeawesome #soldouteverywhere.”

Lesson never learned
Lesson never learned

As a former WNBA player  for the Washington Mystics I actually got to witness Gilbert Arenas in person, his playful nature, his willingness to give back to the community, and his intense work ethic. This guy lived, ate and slept  on the practice court at the Verizon Center and was an earlier version of  a game style that  Stephen Curry has now  perfected  His skills  warranted the  Washington Wizards to give him a hefty 6-year deal worth 111 million dollars.  Many say this rant was a cry from deep within in for someone to remember who he once was before the  ignorant decision to carry five guns  into a locker room: “relevant”. Now that I’ve refreshed your memory let me proceed.

First, I don’t have a problem with Arenas having his opinions because we are all entitled to our opinions, but the fact that he had to dismiss and  demean the women of the WNBA was disheartening and appalling. I’ve heard similar comments and know that many men feel the same way as Arenas, however the fact that he was a  former professional athlete  hits home with me. He  knows the hard work and sacrifice an athlete puts in to make it to the highest level and to  use sexism and unwarranted comments to dismiss female ballers and  put it in writing  is just unacceptable and disturbing.

Secondly, not only did Arenas show a video of two blond Caucasian women playing against each other and then compare them to a league that’s predominantly African American raises another issue on how he doesn’t respect black woman in general. His bitterness towards women is evident in his outspokeness about his wife and sidechicks and groupies, so why would he not add the WNBA ladies in there too. It’s hard to be an athletic woman in today’s society and even harder to be a black, athletic woman in America. Of course, society attempts to dictate to all women what beautiful is and isn’t, and yet black women have to fight increasingly harder to ignore the subtle and obvious insults on their black and brown skin tones, their hair styles, and their bodies.  Now, Arenas decides to chime in with his video-take on who he we would actually accept playing our sport and the sad thing is, I’m sure many WNBA athletes (including myself) actually supported him through his gun-brawl during his Washington years.  But this is the thanks we get.  Athletic women have to constantly fight to accept ourselves and fight through the negative insults heard from not only ignorant men that wish they could play a professional  sport but some men that dominate the  sports media as well.

It's not right Gilbert and it ain't okay.
It’s not right Gilbert and it ain’t okay.

Last but not least, Gilbert has daughters that may want to play basketball and be as great as their father once was.  I guess she will be only allowed to play the  sports you mentioned below in your response to your first rant. Readers take a look at an excerpt from another ignorant comment that he put in writing to justify his first comments.

#Tennis,omg they were short skirts like female..#trackandfield,short tights and crop tops,so we can see abs “we get ass prints and stomachs,in that sport YAY”#volleyball,short tights and booties hanging out the back off their shorts “

You mentioned  tennis even though Serena is constantly demeaned for her physique in the short skirts that you referred too. So much that she has to address it and hear it over and over again instead of her power and dominance in the game. I’m just going to be real Caucasian women can get away with wearing some uniforms that the average black athlete with assests can’t. We are scrutinized in all areas of our lives and for another former professional African American male to tear us down and be self righteous about it is just sad, actually there aren’t any words for it. And it is also ironic, being that your own mother ran track and played basketball in what could have been a promising career…(http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/03/27/AR2010032703122_2.html?sid=ST2010032703985)

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The look I have when men say WNBA palyers are ugly…

The reason I couldn’t ignore these comments is  because I speak with young ladies that don’t want to play sports because of comments like these. Because they want the boys to like them, they don’t want to beat the boys and be ostracized. Sports are a great way to help young girls develop the self confidence to not get involved with ignorant men like Gilbert and those that support and agree with him. Sports build their self confidence and self worth in a world that especially at a young age can be so rude and cruel.

I will close with this: Gilbert your  legacy as a professional ball player has been tarnished and after these degrading comments your legacy will be invisible just like the invisible text app you created. It’s unfortunate that your daughters will have to grow up and read all the clever things that their father wrote. Have you ever thought about what legacy you are leaving them because unlike your  app there’s nothing invisible about what you wrote.  They and your future grand-kids will actually read what you’ve written years from now which may actually be a good thing as you try to remain relevant.  It’s clear that hurting people, hurt people and being abandoned by your own mother had to hurt.  Yet, there is no need to make us pay.  What you speak into existence always comes back and karma whether good or bad always comes back.